Our understanding of domestic violence is incorrectly skewed to believe women are almost invariably always the victims, according to a social commentator.

Bettina Arndt, sex therapist and writer, says women are often the perpetrators of domestic violence, both towards a partner and children.

Ms Arndt has penned a feature article in tomorrow’s Weekend Australian about domestic violence, claiming statistics released by authorities are misleading.

“It’s a pack of lies essentially,” she told Tom Elliott on 3AW Drive.

“And what makes me really mad is there a lot of statistics included in these lies that are just totally wrong and deliberately misleading. They are all about demonising men and whitewashing women.”

Click play to hear Tom Elliott’s interview with Bettina Arndt.