A womanâs legs splay motionless on the floor, a man in dress shirt and tie slumps face-down on the ground, a young boy lies sprawled at the bottom of a staircase, police knock at a front door.
It doesnât have to end here.
Thatâs the message behind a powerful new ACT Domestic Violence Prevention Council campaign aimed at boosting awareness of what domestic and family abuse looks like and to draw attention to it as a whole-of-community problem.
Council chairwoman Marcia Williams said the campaign was âvery confronting; deliberately confrontingâ and was designed to compel Canberrans to seek out more information or to have a conversation with a friend, family member or colleague who could be experiencing violence.
âThere are too many people in the ACT who think it doesnât happen,â she said.
ACT Victims of Crime commissioner John Hinchey hoped the series of posters and videos would challenge misconceptions that domestic and family abuse was a âprivate matterâ, limited to physical violence, and only experienced by women in heterosexual relationships.
Mr Hinchey said the campaign, which was funded by the ACT government, aimed at early intervention and halting domestic and family abuse before it escalated to physical violence.
One of the videos was designed to show abuse could also be characterised by a raft of power and control behaviours without physical aggression, but including sexual, emotional, psychological or financial control.
âHe puts all my money in his account, he stops me from contacting my family and friends, he even tells our children to ignore me,â a womanâs voice says.
It also features a second woman saying, âSometimes he frightens me with how angry he can get, but heâs never hit meâ; and another, âHe makes all the decisions for me but he says thatâs what good husbands are supposed to do.â
In another video, a man speaks of his adult son repeatedly threatening to kill him, while another man says his male partner vowed to âout himâ to his friends and family if he threatened to leave him.
The same advertisement also features a woman recalling a man had tipped her out of her wheelchair and refused to help her up, and another manâs voice saying: âShe tells me that Iâm useless and dumb.â
Mr Hinchey said the councilâs recent review of domestic violence deaths in the ACT showed men were also at risk of domestic and family abuse.
âThe council wants to recognise that and work towards an inclusive understanding that domestic and family violence crosses social and gender lines of identity, that same-sex couples are just as vulnerable as heterosexual couples.
âChildren and women with disabilities are particularly vulnerable, but men are also vulnerable and we must provide opportunities and avenues for men to report abuse.â
Mr Hinchey said the council was keenly aware that any loss of momentum gained by a fresh national debate over domestic and family violence in recent years, coupled with bolstered community outrage following a string of deaths in the ACT allegedly linked to family violence, meant the community risked growing complacent.
âThe council is aware that despite the funding from the ACT government, and other governments, for domestic violence, it remains a community issue and a community responsibility.
âThe message is that domestic and family violence isnât a private matter, itâs a public matter and a crime, and we need to keep this at the forefront.
âWe shouldnât wait for deaths to occur to keep a strong focus on the issue.â
If you or someone you know is affected by domestic or family violence, call the ACT Domestic Violence Crisis Service 24-hour crisis line on 6280 0900. In an emergency, call 000. See helpstopdv.org.au.